Do You Want To Be The Best Parent Or Guardian Possible?

Typography_ParentCoaching Tyra Vickers

Are you questioning what it means to be a good parent? Do you want to gain clarity and develop parenting skills that are well matched to your child(ren)’s development, attachment and learning styles?

Are you concerned about a sudden change in your child’s attitude and mood? Maybe they are exhibiting new behaviors, like bed wetting, that have you worried about being a potentially bigger problem, such as child depression, anxiety or something else. You may have sought advice in books or online, but the abundant information is difficult to navigate, and some of it seems contradictory.

Are you seeking advice for new parents? Perhaps you’re overwhelmed by parenting classes and blogs, and you’re looking for more personal, tailored, focused solutions. Especially if you’re adjusting to a new routine as a stay at home mom or dad, who spends all day with your children, you may be looking for effective ways to fill that time.

Or, are you the parent of a child with disabilities, struggling to balance your child’s needs with your own? Because your child may not learn or behave like other children, looking to your friends for advice may not be a good option. You may want parenting advice from a professional that can help you respond to challenging behaviors more effectively.

Regardless of your particular parenting situation, you are likely also balancing demanding careers, household needs and social activities. It may feel like you’re bouncing from one thing to the next, and looking for ways to slow down and focus on your family. Or, maybe there are other external factors, like tension with in-laws or other family members that are complicating your parenting journey. By now, you likely seek some skills and education about how to be a more effective parent.

Parenting Is Not Easy

I like to joke with my clients that parenting is so hard, I haven’t done it yet. The reason raising children is so challenging is because it’s a skill you were never explicitly taught. Without reliable guidelines, most parents end up raising children the way we were raised. The parenting style your parents used may not be effective for your child(ren). Not only that, but once unhelpful familial patterns develop, they can become difficult to identify and change.

There are a variety of other factors that also contribute to parenting challenges.

For example, if you’re balancing a career or school (or both) with parenting, it’s no wonder you’re overstressed. Living in today’s world can be demanding. The more responsibilities you add on, the harder it is to slow down and tend to your own needs, let alone the changing needs of your child(ren).

Technology has also transformed the way people raise children. You might struggle to set boundaries with work to spend quality time with your family because you’re always accessible via phone or email. Technology is also very engaging to young kids, which puts them at a predisposition to become dependent. Does your child argue or start to tantrum when it is time to put the iPad or tablet away? Many parents struggle with how much screen time is appropriate, where to draw the line, and how to end screen time without a fight. With teens, social media can create an environment of and cyberbullying or other online drama that can fuel low self-esteem. You may also worry about predators online and how you can communicate with your child to keep them safe.

And, if you’re a parent of a child with special needs, you likely face other daily challenges. For example, it can be difficult to navigate care options, learning resources and your responses to challenging behaviors.

Parenting is also a very vulnerable topic to discuss, and no one wants to admit they’re struggling or don’t know what to do. So, you might seek out educational resources, only to find that there’s a flux of information out there about parenting. It’s difficult to know what will work for you.

The good news is that parenting support can provide you with individualized solutions that address your specific concerns. With help, you can bring greater peace and calm into your household.

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Parenting Support Can Sharpen Your Skills And Make Life Easier

Parenting support is an interactive process, during which you can expect to delve into both the deep and subtle aspects of parenting. Here, we’re focused on specific, incremental changes in attitudes and routines that could lead to significant improvements in your family’s stress level and connection.

I provide a gentle, compassionate space for you to discover your parenting strengths and how to utilize them. It’s common for parents to be their own worst critics. In sessions, we can examine trying situations with compassion and even humor. At times, raising small human beings can be quite ridiculous and funny, and it’s important to allow yourself to laugh.

Unlike self-help books or classes that are designed for the general public, here, you receive focused interventions for the particular challenges you face. For example, if conflict runs rampant in your household, we may collaboratively come up with a reliable decision-making procedure to help your family members resolve disagreements.

During parenting support, you can also learn how to set realistic expectations for your child(ren)’s specific developmental stage. For example, telling a young child to stop crying may not be effective, since that is a common characteristic of being a toddler. Learning about developmentally appropriate parental interventions can help you better support your child(ren) throughout the course of their adolescence. You can also come to learn about different personality styles, and build compassion and respect for your child(ren), who may understand the world differently than you.

Self-care is also a very important aspect of good parenting. I’m both a coach and a therapist, meaning I have training in a variety of stress reduction techniques, including mindfulness, progressive muscle relaxation and a lot more. We can also take a look at your calendar as well as your family’s daily routines to discover small, systematic ways to make your life easier.

I have a rich and broad background in child psychology, including nine years of experience as a school psychologist and three years as an ABA therapist, working with kids with autism. I have also taught parenting classes in the Cherry Creek School District.

From all my experience, I’m confident that I can help you feel confident about your parenting and restore and establish more peace and calm in your home.

You may still have questions or concerns about parenting support…

My schedule is hectic, and I’m worried I don’t have time.

Being a parent can take up all your time. With that being said, it’s important that you care for yourself and seek out resources that improve your day-to-day life. Parenting support can provide you with skills that make parenting less overwhelming. When you’re feeling more balanced and calm, you’ll likely find that you’re also more productive. So, coming to see me once a week can actually save you time in the long run.

I’m worried you’re going to judge me for being a bad parent.

There is absolutely no judgment here. I understand that every parent is doing the very best they can with the resources they have.

If you’re concerned about a specific incident, I can provide you with ways to forgive yourself and move forward. Parents are often very hard on themselves. When you’re able to let go and gain more confidence in your parenting skills, you’ll feel lighter and happier overall.

Does seeking help mean I’m a bad parent?

Quite the opposite is true. Seeking help means you’re a highly intelligent and resourceful parent.

And, as you start to employ more effective parenting techniques, other parents are likely to notice. They might even start asking you to share some advice.

The guidance and support I provide here often brings families closer together. As you improve your overall family dynamic, you can rest assured that you’re doing the right thing for your kids.

Parental Support Is Available

If you’re interested in learning more about parenting support, please call (720) 316-3909 or email drtyravickers@gmail.com for a free, 30-minute consultation.

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